Our resident snowboarders sent these video messages to Matty to show off their snowboard skills. Matty was very impressed! If you want to see Matty ( and his roommate Dillon) in action here is a link to their latest video. Disclaimer: this video contains stupid rap music with "bad" words! It may be best watched with the volume off ... and make sure you close your eyes at the over 21 adult antics and beverage consumption ect.....
The cold weather has gotten to us! We are very, very LOUD! I decided that when there are times that the noise and activity level reaches a high level its time to relax a bit. I turn on a soothing song on the I pad, everyone closes their eyes, puts their head down and keeps then down and relax until the song is over. It works wonders!
I read a great article last week about a way to curb constant interruption and repetitive asking. I started using it on Thursday and it really is the ticket! I will be consistent using it and I know we will have a lot less interrupting and waiting and thinking! It already has started to work. In case you would like to start using ot to I pasted the article below.
End child nagging & negotiating with just three simple words
When it comes to persistence, few things compare to a child nagging and negotiating to try and get what he wants. And few people know that better than a parent who has given that child an answer they don’t want to hear.
From the famed “Are we there yet?” to this morning’s “Can I have ice cream for breakfast?” to this afternoon’s “Can I have ice cream for dinner?” kids are notorious for their one-track minds, and they will ask…and ask…and ask…just in case you’ve changed your mind in the last minute.
Child nagging is a learned behavior that children of any age can pick up. They might continue to use it because once, in a moment of weakness, you caved and let them stay up an extra half hour after they asked for the eighth time.
But like any learned behavior, child nagging can be unlearned. The solution comes from Lynn Lott, co-author of the Positive Discipline series of books, and it works on kids as young as two or three, all the way through their teens.
It only takes three simple words: “Asked and Answered.”
The concept is simple. When seven-year-old Daniel begs to dig a giant hole in the front yard and gets “no” for an answer, chances are he’ll be back in five minutes asking again – this time with a “pleeeeeeaase” just so you know he really, really wants to dig the hole.
Instead of repeating yourself or jumping in to a lecture, avoid child nagging by getting eye to eye and follow the process below:
Step One: Ask, “Have you ever heard of ‘Asked and Answered’?” (He’ll probably say no.)
Step Two: Ask, “Did you ask me a question about digging a hole?” (He’ll say yes.)
Step Three: Ask, “Did I answer it?” (He’ll probably say, “Yes, but, I really ….”)
Step Four: Ask, “Do I look like the kind of mom/dad/teacher who will change her/his mind if you ask me the same thing over and over?” (Chances are Daniel will walk away, maybe with a frustrated grunt, and engage in something else.)
Step Five: If Daniel asks again, simply say, “Asked and Answered.” (No other words are necessary!) Once this technique has been established, these are the only words you should need to say to address nagging questions.
Consistency is key! Once you decide to use “Asked and Answered” with your nagging child, be sure to stick to it. If 14-year-old Emma is particularly determined to keep asking to get her eyebrow pierced, stay strong. Answering her question again – or worse yet, changing your answer – will reinforce to her that her nagging works. Although it’ll take some patience, your child will eventually connect the dots and you’ll see results!
Make “Asked and Answered” a joint effort with your spouse, and consider including any family or friends who may have to deal with child nagging and negotiating from your child. When Daniel and Emma realize that they won’t get a “yes,” even after they’ve asked twelve times, they’ll get the hint and retire this tactic.
Speech and Language Pathologist, Stacy Pulley reports this technique works well for children with communication challenges, particularly those with Autism. She suggests bringing a notebook or a chalk/dry erase board into the mix and writing down a question once they’ve asked it more than once, keeping in mind their reading level. Or, draw a picture. Then, when your child asks again, point to the board or notebook to remind them that they’ve asked, and you’ve answered. Be sure to use as few words as possible and stay consistent in your language to help them understand the connection as they learn to listen to and respect your answers.
Adding this tool to your parenting toolbox is a positive step toward ending the child nagging and negotiating that can wear on even the most resolute of parents. Then, be sure to follow through and stay consistent – and before you know it, 20 questions will be a fun game once again, and no longer a negotiation tactic!
We were so happy that it was finally warm enough to go outside and play! An added bonus to the excitement was that there was a nice slippery crust to the snow that made it great for sledding! Please remember boots and play appropriate mittens for joining in the fun. Please no thin stretch mittens or gloves. They get too wet and little hands get too cold.
Today we started bi weekly sessions of ABC Mouse for Taylor, Gavin and Marin. The 2's and 3's will try tomorrow as it may be too difficult for him. It was a HUGE hit! The biggest challenge will be that they want to do it ALL the time. I want to keep this as a special learning incentive to look forward to so we will start with 1 session, 2 times a week and go from there.
Sit back and enjoy the action presented by Allie and her fabulous crew of cheerleaders showing their Prior Lake pride! GO ALLIE!
Thank you to the kind person, or persons who nominated me again this year for Scott County Childcare Provider of the Year. It is such a wonderful feeling and I truly appreciate it.
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